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A Playlist of Short Resources for Mothers!
Here’s a short and sweet post – a list of 15 SHORT podcasts to listen to to support and encourage you in your role as a parent. Titles include “What can the pandemic teach us about what working moms need?” and “2-Minute Pandemic Self-Care Reflection, feat. Season of Love Lyrics” (come on just take a couple of minutes and do the mindfulness activity?) Again, if you find that you’re experiencing more than the normal “baby blues” things like depression, scary thoughts, anxiety, sleeplessness, feeling depleted managing it all, PTSD from your childbirth experience, feel free to reach out to me me, Michelle Grunkemeyer to talk about if it makes sense…
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Pandemic Resources for Mom (well for anytime!)
On this Mother’s Day, I’ve included a somewhat diverse set of imagery depicting mothers and children. But is it truly representative of our experience of motherhood? I couldn’t find images showing mothers trying to juggle working from home and managing online schooling. I couldn’t find mothers comforting crying children, or mothers in the middle of the night after a day of work outside the home or work inside the cooking, cleaning and doing laundry. I couldn’t find images of mothers who feel the loneliness that the pandemic has imposed on us. For mothers, there aren’t play dates to get together for support. In labor, for a period of time some…
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Addiction, Anxiety, attachment, Coping Skills, COVID, Depression, Mindfulness, Postnatal, Pregnancy, Somatic, Trauma
I can say NO? No Way! – Boundaries
How did you feel after you read through this list? Or did the title of the blog post simply kind of blow your mind off? The graphic above has some great prompts to think about when you are trying to establish some healthy boundaries. When we have grown up in homes where there was substance abuse, mental health struggles, financial issues, domestic violence, incarceration, physical, sexual, verbal or emotional abuse, we often develop a set of faulty beliefs about what we can say no to. We may become people pleasers, always molding ourselves around what we think others want of us. We may develop avoidant attachment styles where we simply…
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Three Kinds of “Freeze” Response
If you have been reading much about PTSD or trauma, you have probably come across the term: Fight, Flight, Freeze (well, there’s a 4th F, Fawn and I’ll talk about that at another time.) When we’re going along with our lives and all of the sudden something happens, like we’re taking a walk in the woods and we see motion in the leaves and think, “SNAKE” before we actually enter fight or flight or back to enjoyment because you realize it’s just a little black snake, innocuous. There is actually a moment of “freeze” that we go through – things tense up and our body revs up getting ready to…
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Struggling with anxiety, depression or other “negative” emotions and disorders
I use Acceptance and Commitment Therapy with a lot of my clients who struggle with issues like depression, anxiety, OCD, social phobia and more. ACT gives us a path to help you move out of a stuck place into a life filled with meaning and purpose. This short little video demonstrates a technique used in ACT to “defuse” from the cycle of negative emotions that we can find ourselves caught in. We may notice that we’re having that familiar feeling of depression. As soon as we notice it, something like a switch goes off and we get all tangled up with our depression. We may then begin to feel angry that…
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Addiction, Anxiety, attachment, Coping Skills, Depression, DID, Dissociation, Mindfulness, Miscarriage, Pregnancy, Somatic, Stillbirth, Trauma
What does “bottom up processing” mean?
A lot of effective therapy is considered “top down.” As in we talk, using our brain, cognitive work. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is a tried and true and effective method for therapy. I happen to use “Acceptance and Commitment Therapy: ACT ( pronounced like the work “act”) to do this cognitive work. But we know from research (in fact the more research that is done, the more it confirms this fact) that trauma memories are stored quite differently than regular memories. Trauma memories when re-experienced can feel here and now, and unending. Often times, they are experienced as “emotional flashbacks.” That is a feeling that has no words or explanation of…